last night my mom made it pretty clear to me that she and my aunt are the type of people who believe rape is a product of clothing choices. my mom lectured me about my outfit on saturday saying that i need to be more careful because she knows what can happen. i told her that i do too, considering i’ve been sexually abused multiple times in my life, wearing little outfits that didn’t match with multiple layers because i was expressing who i was. when i was five. and six. and eleven. so yes, i too know what can happen when sick people get a sick idea in their heads. it has nothing to do with the shorts i wear, or the top i wear, or the way i do my makeup. a healthy person’s response to those things may be attraction, but never, ever abuse or dominance. someone who is inclined to be sexually abusive will do so no matter what the victim wears.